“Eventually we realize our Middle School Sex Ed Teacher was a lying son of a gun, and sex isn’t bad and scary but fun and pleasurable.”
I subscribe to a blog post service call Medium which has many categories giving me access to a wide variety of writers. The one I read today discussed women and porn.
Turns out, however, there was a broader subject: the shame, created by parents and teachers, of sexual activity. The writer suggests that if you actually watch porn
“…you’ll have to face the consequences of your sins — right along with a heaping serving of sexual shame — heavy enough to topple your paper plate at the next congregation pot luck.
I suggest you follow the link above and read the article but here is what I think is crux:
“A message to other women who watch porn.
I see you and I’m sorry.
I’m sorry the world has told you that your sexual desires are dirty.
I’m sorry we have been conditioned to believe that we should either repress our sexual desires into oblivion or hide them away from the world.
I’m sorry that men have been allowed to biologically explain away their brutish sexual appetites, yet us women are forced to play the role of a pristine virgin to avoid becoming a social outcast.
Most of all, I’m sorry that you’ve been silenced and I want you to know there are plenty of other women just like you and me.”
I think that does it for me. First of all, I am male and, as such, there is a limit to how much I can contribute about a female’s experience. Secondly, and most importantly, she has expressed what I would have if I could. Please read the whole blog. I think it is some “sexual wisdom” we all need to understand.
Words from Warren 