Sometimes overwhelming anxiety can almost disable one. Called “Panic attacks” they are no laughing matter
I was going into a Target store near our home in Minnesota when I suddenly began to be short of breath and dizzy. My hearing and vision seemed to narrow down. I felt trapped; I couldn’t think what to do.
seemed like an hour but was only about five minutes, things began to slow down.
I still was fearful but was able to walk back to my car where I slowly
panic attack was the culprit. It causes one to kick into fight or flight mode
and it puts us into a state of derealization or disassociation from the
external reality. And, cruelly, giving
no warning, a panic attack can happen anytime or any place.
I was only about forty-five at the time and had never experienced a panic attack before. Probably like it would be with most of you who haven’t had the “fun” of one, when it happened, I sincerely thought I was dying. I was sure it was a heart attack.
time it happened, I was just as anxious but then they kept going away. At some
point I decided to ask my doctor what was going on and what could I do about
it. As usual, and remember this, when I finally asked for help, I was able to
do something about panic attacks.
When I started working with a cognitive behavioral therapist, two things made the most difference. The first was so simple in retrospect. When anxiety starts up, use my brain to say something like, “Hello, old friend.” Panic attacks fall into the ubiquitous ”What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger” category and as such can be minimized by committing oneself to just go through them.
The other big thing was the referral to do a series of biofeedback sessions. Good old WebMD explains it this way:
Biofeedback is a mind-body
technique that involves using visual or auditory feedback to gain control over
involuntary bodily functions. This may include gaining voluntary control over
such things as heart rate, muscle tension, blood flow, pain perception and
I went into a soundproof room,
sat in nice office chair and they had me put on comfortable headphones. Electronic
leads were put on my forehead, the tips of a couple fingers and the readouts
were explained to me.
The idea was that, as I
listened to a meditation with calming music, I wanted to see my heart rate go
down, tension in my face go away, and my fingertips warm up due to more blood
circulation there. Of course, results were saved to be compared to my subsequent
The first couple of times, as
was to be expected, I worked hard to control everything. That didn’t work. It
wasn’t until I realized it was simply letting go that would allow things to
We often hear the term “control
freak” and chuckle but, as an oldie radio program character used to say, “It
ain’t funny, McGee.” Some of us suffer
from trying to keep all our ducks in a row when, in fact, it can’t be done. At
least for us. As counterintuitive as it is, giving up is only way to settle
Apparently, anxiety runs in
my family. Why, I don’t know, but it is somewhat comforting to know that.
My mother was the ultimate, “everything
has a place and there is a place for everything.” type person. And in her last
few years, in her 90s, she seemed panicky most of the time. There wasn’t much
to do except be with her. I might not have even realized what she was feeling
if I hadn’t experienced the same things.
Then, my sister recently dealt with disabling anxiety for a period after a serious surgery. We live a thousand miles apart so all we could do was text and speak on the phone, but I tried to share my anxiety experiences. She was able to come to some of the same conclusions as I, and after a couple of months was, I started to say “more in control” but no, found she was able to let go and calm down.
So, if you experience some of
these feelings and fear they will never go away, ask for help. Meanwhile, take
deep breathes and know they are only temporary.
Then, maybe do what seems
funny on TV, get a little paper bag, breathe into it, which helps reduce the
hyperventilation. It can’t hurt.