Actually, I have found no sane way to avoid aging, so I am going to refine my eldership before I run completely out of time
Once during a Q & A session at a political forum, a woman prefaced her question by saying “Astonishingly, I turned 80 last week.” I now know exactly what she meant because I just did, too.It is a cliché that we feel one age in our mind, but we are chronologically another. Or as the legendary pitcher, Satchel Paige, famously said, “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were?”
Meanwhile there are mirrors, group photos, upgraded pains, and the nice, but sometimes a bit tongue-in-cheek, compliments: “You can’t be 80! I would have never guessed that.”
So, what now? I will call myself an ‘elder’. I don’t really seem to have much wisdom. I do have some, even though much of it seems to have come lately. Maybe one has to trade off: One gem for each new ache.
So, here are a few I have accumulated.
*Have you murdered someone? No? Then forget all that junk from your past.
In 12 Step programs, essential work is to “take a personal inventory” and then to let it go and move on. Not possible, you say? Then try to change the past. Talk about impossible.
Shame is in the eye of the experiencer
Sometimes it is natural to feel ashamed, but ask yourself, why?
Let’s say, no one knows or ever will know that about which you are ashamed. So, try this: Stand in front of a mirror and repeat after me, Shame begone!
Ok is just OK
A relentless TV commercial makes fun of people who are not perfect. “Just OK is not OK, but is that true?
While there are some things that have to be almost exactly right but for most of what we do or are, OK is definitely enough.
Being in control is a hopeless quest
If you have ever been called a “control freak”, sit down and ponder that accusation.
This wisdom came from my daughter. I was once half worrying and half grieving over someone’s situation. When I told her how I was feeling, she simply said, “You can’t control anything in life.” A radical statement but simply true.
That’s it for now but after writing this, I remember that “I know a lot of things because I have seen a lot of things.” That phrase may be the best definition of elderhood. If you are anything like me, I bet you have much wisdom, too
(*If you have actually murdered someone, “that is above my paygrade.” Sorry)
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